Tweets for the past week

  • This weekend has turned me into an ice coffee factory… have one caraffe made and another chilling. #
  • It might just be me, but I think the sun made today go faster… or it was the 100s of non-ending questions I had to answer :/ #
  • Confirmed, time goes by faster when it's sunny outside. #pdx #cloudytoday #
  • I can make a choice to feel jealous, realize I don't need/want whatever it is, or step it up and say to myself "I'm going that way!" #
  • @carlybish UGGG yes it is. 🙁 The last couple of times this happened to me I found my wallet/cards a day or 2 after the new card(s) arrived! #
  • @PDXGoonie Sweet picture! #
  • http://t.co/ggIIjWfb ranks Seattle at 7th and PDX at 10th for transit access, not bad #PNW #trimet #metrokc #SEA #PDX http://t.co/YbZGbqN6 #

Tweets for the past week

  • So who else was duped by a false weather report for today? #RainRainGoAway #
  • Just thought I'd let you all be jealous, my Gmail still works 🙂 #GmailDown – #notforme #
  • After taking yesterday off b/c of this cold/sinus infection, I return to work today w/o my badge nor my laptop! #ShouldaStayedHome #
  • It has been a very ling time since I was this happy for it to be Friday. I don't even care it's nasty wet outside. #

Tweets for the past week

  • @airlinereporter http://t.co/pl1jwQO3 if you can even see this… what kind of plane is this? #BOS #
  • @airlinereporter @rodgill72 @tomasimonsen @steve_caffey @racingwinds – Thanks! Never seen such a funny tri-engine plane! #
  • I just walked the entire length of concourse B, easily close to a half mile, @ DEN just to have Starbucks Chair Tea Latte, yes I'm THAT guy. #
  • I just walked the entire length of concourse B, easily close to a half mile, at DEN just to have Starbucks Chai Tea Latte, yes I'm THAT guy. #
  • Love conversations that hopefully lead to changed attitudes for the better! #
  • I've had three iced drinks today, I think Spring is finally here. #
  • #trimet Max operator just announced "lots of police and ambulance activity at 60th, slow going until we pass it" #
  • @sirlancelot that's lame, ours wasn't too delayed I only arrived about 10 min later than normal. #
  • Excited! Guys night, watching the Blue Like Jazz movie! #bluelikejazz #
  • OK repeat after me: say no to cold and sore throat inducing germs. 🙁 #
  • @mheternal does not surprise me, more and more people are loud and others ask for quiet and the loud ones just laugh or give attitude… :/ #

Tweets for the past week

My Marriage

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From rose colored glasses to the nasty pit of bitterness, despair, anger, and frustration. That pretty much sums up my marriage experience so far! Yet, I am so much more in love with Alexis, my bride, than I have ever been. There have been some very tough times, lots of frustration, and things that I can’t explain – yet through it all I have come to know someone who is committed to the beauty that is marriage. Our marriage is far from the ideal one, far from the romanticized story lines of Hollywood, and yet if it were a movie I think it would be a blockbuster.

What makes our marriage work in spite of the issues? A strong, steadfast, and never-changing foundation in the power of Christ – I know, oh gosh I went religious on you, sorry but in this instance there’s no other way of describing it (besides, religious to me would be rules, regulations, and performance – what I’m talking about is out of relationship, hearing, feeling Christ’s love – not just trying to “please” Him). Without Christ as the one truth to bind us together we would have gone our own ways years ago. Because of who Christ says I am, and who He says Alexis is, and because we believe that truth and not what we think in our weak moments, we can rise above the “moments”, the arguments, the outright crazy insane fights, and realize – you know what, she/he is NOT really that selfish, mean, hurtful, terrible, etc… those things are the aspects of our fallen humantiy; the truth is she/he is a child of God and therefore is forgiven, just as I am, in all things.

Does this truth mean accept anything that comes at you from your spouse and just “let it go” – absolutely not, it means both making sacrifices, apologizing for your own actions without demanding the other person does the same – it means giving grace, and it most of all means being humble, learning from you mistakes and lovingly letting those moments change you. As long as both parties are willing to humble themselves – there is hope. It may take time, and a lot of prayer, but don’t put God in a box (aka, don’t put your spouse in a box). Seek the loving advice of others who have gone before you, seek the Lord’s truth, and remember we’re living in a fallen world – crap happens, and we get to live in it.

That’s my two cents, don’t give up, chin up, walk the high road, and look at your marriage as a child, it needs nourishment, love, attention, and hope.

Tweets for the past week

  • Reconciling multiple views of the same picture is nearly impossible, and thankfully not required when grace and mercy are applied. #
  • I really don't understand why Taxi drivers don't use their GPS? No I'm not two blocks south in a different location than the address I gave. #
  • @Trimet in Chicago today, the CTA has automated announcements telling people to not play music and be quiet and considerate. MAX needs this! #
  • Emma being a "Princess Fairy Cat" at SBUX – notice how she's drinking her water. – http://t.co/qY7Lh4I4 #
  • Great day being a temporary single dad, cleaned the house, flew my new toy helicopter w/ Emma, & just got back from an Sbux date – perfect. #

Urban co-housing, we could do this!

< Daybreak Cohousing in Portland - Common areas aren't used a couple times a year, they are focal points for community interaction - click to enlarge; photo by Grace Kim >
< Daybreak Cohousing in Prtland - Common areas aren't used a couple times a year, they are focal points for community interaction - click to visit original article on citytank; photo by Grace Kim >

Urban shared living communities are a very fascinating idea to me; the modern “commune” (now being referred to as “co-housing”)is far from our typical hippy era picture we usually hear about. Today’s living communities focus on the idea supporting one another, and doing the most with the least, rather than being “lead” by a single person, these new communities focus on group decision making and putting the good and needs of the group ahead of the wants of the individual, while still respecting the individual dignity and privacy. I came across a fascinating article about some communities here in the Pacific Northwest and elsewhere (I strongly recommend reading the article).  I also know of some friends from our Seattle days who live in a small Christian shared living home with two other families.  When Alexis and I were interns, we had our own mini version of this, with a men’s house and a women’s house across the street from each other, we shared meals together, and did chores together – being mostly young, raised middle-class, and suburban dwelling people – it was rather dramatic, yet we bonded in ways only possible from co-housing.

These communities are not “hostel” style, each family has their own living space with bedrooms, bathrooms, living room, and possibly a kitchen as well, and circumstances differ from community to community. Most communities make a point to share a meal or two each week, split up the community maintenance, and help one another out. What I found the most intriguing is that 40% of people living in these kinds of communities said they regularly gave financial support to their neighbors when in need far more than when they lived in our traditional self-contained fashion. Of course living in close proximity with others has its ups and downs; however I believe the benefits far outweigh the shortcomings.

These new communities are not removed from society, rather they are integrated into the fabric of the urban life, in the midst of our dense city neighborhoods where people can easily get to work, grocery shop, and interact with humanity. This sounds a lot like “the good old days” where people valued other people, and more than that, it sounds quite close to something we can read in Acts 2:42-47. This is an idea I can get behind, intentionally living together, sharing resources, taking care of one another, and letting iron sharpen iron.

Maybe someday we’ll be able to buy an apartment building and turn it into one of these living communities, and not just open to other Christians, but rather a mix, and have it be an opportunity to be a light house to others and our community. The idea is huge, but I’m ok with those now, since our call to Poland will no doubt reflect many of these values, maybe we’ll start something in Kraków along these lines?  I know plenty of young adults and families who would probably jump into an idea like this fairly easily – a built in support network, yes, make it so.

Tweets for the past week

  • Decision: To challenge or not challenge myself with something completely outside my box…. #
  • Challenge accepted… it's been over 10 years since I've done what I'm about to embark on… #
  • And in other news .. I've confirmed the back car of the MAX is the craziest mix of humanity… #
  • Emma and Chloe… the cats are back… – http://t.co/TyVQGJcV #
  • Wow… Snow, on the ground,really? I think the calendar isn't working. #

Freeways, destroyed our society…

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I have began learning a lot about the American transportation infrastructure over the last year, and I have to say, I’m not such a fan of the automobile as I use to be. The cost to Americans just to move around from point A to point B is staggering, unhealthy (both physically and economically), and destroys the fabric of our society yes, probably more so than gays and lesbians, abortion, and bad TV. I honestly believe this, and the following is why. This post is in no way conclusive, all encompassing, nor the “end all’ – it’s just part of an adventure I’m on in seeing our world differently, it’s not designed to be political, it’s hopefully a nod to a different way of life which we have found more simple, less taxing on the overall system (in many ways) and provides us opportunity to interact with more people.

The cost is horribly high for what we “get” – most freeways spend a lot of time underutilized, they are built to attempt to work at “peak” load, making them monstrosities which eat up valuable land, create moats around communities, and in reality with every lane addition and expansion more cars hit the roads. You can see examples of this on a recent article I read here. Additionally, by making access to the hinterlands cheaper, more people moved away from the cores of our cities, creating a dependency on cars to get us around, leaving us less healthy, disconnected from community, and paying for car insurance, fuel, and fuel taxes. Some people may even begin to think of our funding system as almost socialist, since everyone is forced to pay for it in some way or another… people would scream if there was a “highway” fare (aka tolling) – like on Transit systems. The cost to build and maintain these “freeways” is very high, and becoming more expensive each year, many times construction lobbyists push for highway construction  as a “jobs creator” – and we pay for it, through over budget projects, which are then passed down through state taxing systems making everyone pay, many times at the cost of other more-human scale programs and projects.

Why do I say freeways destroy the fabric of our society? Well, because it has caused many Americans to live in suburbs, and other places where getting around by car is necessary because everything is spread out. This spreading out effect took away the idea of neighbors, sure we have “neighbors” but because our houses needed to be large enough to have garages we started parking in them and never seeing our neighbors, and the land was cheap so we planted acres of  lawn and built fences as well. We isolated, disconnected, and bought big TVs for our big houses, and stayed inside. We now have to drive to get even the smallest item, our children (in most cases) can’t even go bubble gum without needing a car ride, and many times it’s not even safe to walk to school because of lack of sidewalks.

Visit anywhere in “old downtown America” such as New York, Boston, Chicago, even parts of Seattle and you’ll find community, culture, and human scale life. Sure I understand big cities are not everyone’s favorite, I have nothing against small town America, my issue is with suburb America, it’s artificial, stale, and forced. Are there drawbacks to living in a large city, in high-rise apartments, yes – of course. But a well planned city, with parks, green space, and transportation for all, is a place where many different people of all backgrounds can come together and live; suburban America has a hard time allowing all kinds of people to live there because, well, you need to own a car – and not everyone can or will.

How living a low-car or car-less lifestyle can be amazing:

  • Low transportation costs, more money for family/friends and enjoying our communities
  • Interaction with a greater variety of people, walking, talking, sharing transit, etc. Which leads to greater understanding of the world around us (through interaction that we’ll never have with a car-dependent lifestyle).
  • A society which connects and interacts, is a society that can take care of each other.
  • And much more (sustainability, livability, etc).

One last though, for my fellow Christians, we are called to be people who can effect our communities and neighbors, living in places where we don’t need to drive allows us so many amazing interactions with people.  Might we begin thinking of living in such places? Many times we are focused on “safe” neighborhoods, which is fine in itself to have some selectivity, but we serve a God who we know will protect us, use the brain He gave us, and trust the savior as well to protect us – and make your living location decision based on the people’s needs, and maybe even think about throwing yourself among the community, go car-less or low-car-use for a while and you might make a few friends along the way!

Alexis and I made the decision to live in a “mid-rise” apartment building in Gresham (Gresham’s only and highest) about a year and a half ago, we absolutely love it. It’s right next to a TriMet MAX station (Civic Drive) and I can walk from our top floor (fifth) unit on the far side of our building, to the platform when there’s less than four minutes to the next train. We currently have one car, since outside of our direct neighborhood, which is wonderful but has no grocery store, we need the car to get around Gresham (there’s decent transit but only on a few core streets and definitely not to where our friends live). We know that our next move will be closer to a downtown core, definitely have a grocery store within walking distance, and be someplace where anyone can get to us easily by transit.