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I have had some people here (Poland) ask me what I think makes a good relationship. I said it is not very easy to explain, and that I am better at explaining things in writing rather than in speaking. So I told them I would post it on my blog, and they would have to read it here (for those that know English). And since relationship building is close to my heart, I wanted to portray it clearly. I am in no way the “relationship expert”, but I do believe I would not have the relationship I have with Alexis without practicing the following principles. They are simply my suggestions, based on what I see as Godly truths, I am sure that after years of marriage, I may say, “that was a little silly”, but for now, it has not hurt, so I am going with it.
The first thing I had to be sure of was that I was completely content with being single, and that my number one love in my heart was/is God. Being completely happy, and able to serve God without thinking I needed a spouse, even if that was for the rest of my life, God knows our needs, and if those needs are to have a spouse, than it will happen. About two years ago, I realized the great joy of simply being content with myself, and loving God without any earthly conditions. Learning, accepting, and living this principle is not easy, and at times the desire to be with someone will creep up, especially when it seems everyone around you is “falling” in love, and “all” your friends are getting married.
I remember being in the middle of that feeling, it seemed everyone had a girlfriend or a boyfriend, except pour Travis. Of course, that was not reality; two of my closest friends did not have girlfriends either, but at the time all is saw were the ones with a significant other. I ended up trying to date some girls just because, I thought maybe I was being prudish, and I went against all that I knew was right. And with that, I got hurt, badly. But it was the only way I was going to learn, because I was determined not to be “lonely” and I ended up even lonelier. I had opened my heart up, for the wrong reason, and had not let God be the foundation. I learned to let God do the hard work, and I wouldn’t be hurt. I let that situation be a turning point to put God in control of who I was, and not my situation.
Jesus, I plead
Please purify me
Make my heart clean
Drench me with your mercy
Jesus, I pray
I love you, I need you
For the rest of my days
I swear I will seek you
To the best of my ability
I’m practicing humility
And I lay myself before
‘Cause less is more.
[Less Is More – Relient K –
The Anatomy of the Tongue in Cheek]